I'm not a big fan of bumper stickers. If you're one that loves them I'm sorry. In my opinion, people often reveal their ignorance in what they choose to slap on their car. As in an example, let me bring forth a sticker that I saw the other day. It stated, "If you ain't a Steelers fan, you ain't *crap*." Now for anyone that finds that word crap offensive, I wish to point out that the word that was originally used was much stronger and I chose to lesson it.
The bumper sticker was supporting the Steelers. It was in their team colors. I think there might have even been a tiny Steelers logo on the car. Yet, when you read it properly it is a slap against the team.
Ain't (it is in the dictionary that I checked) is basically an informal way of saying "is not" or "are not." So, reading the words of wisdom again, you wind up with, "If you are not a Steelers fan, you are not crap."
Read it again slowly. "If you are not a Steelers fan, you are not crap." Basically, if you cheer for anyone other than the Steelers, you are not crap. Or, as I was taught in school, let's use the fact that having two negatives in the same sentence cancel each other out. We're left with, "If you are a Steelers fan, you are crap." Somehow I don't think that is what they were intending when they put it on their car.
Whether you take the literal meaning of the real last word in the phrase, or use the idea that it means "a person that is worthless," it still doesn't make sense.
Before you slap something on your car for the world to read, think it through first.
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October 8, 2009
September 25, 2009
Book Review - If God Is Good
To honor my agreement with the publisher, I'm putting all the information about the book here. Hopefully in a week or so I will be able to post a proper opinion about it.
Publisher's Info
Every one of us will experience suffering. Many of us are experiencing it now. As we have seen in recent years, evil is real in our world, present and close to each one of us.
In such difficult times, suffering and evil beg questions about God--Why would an all-good and all-powerful God create a world full of evil and suffering? And then, how can there be a God if suffering and evil exist?
These are ancient questions, but also modern ones as well. Atheists such as Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchens, and even former believers like Bart Ehrman answer the question simply: The existence of suffering and evil proves there is no God.
In this captivating new book, best-selling author Randy Alcorn challenges the logic of disbelief, and brings a fresh, realistic, and thoroughly biblical insight to the issues these important questions raise.
Alcorn offers insights from his conversations with men and women whose lives have been torn apart by suffering, and yet whose faith in God burns brighter than ever. He reveals the big picture of who God is and what God is doing in the world–now and forever. And he equips you to share your faith more clearly and genuinely in this world of pain and fear.
As he did in his best-selling book, Heaven, Randy Alcorn delves deep into a profound subject, and through compelling stories, provocative questions and answers, and keen biblical understanding, he brings assurance and hope to all.
Author Bio
Randy Alcorn is the founder and director of Eternal Perspectives Ministries and a bestselling author. His novels include Deadline, Dominion, Edge of Eternity, Lord Foulgrin’s Letters, The Ishbane Conspiracy, and the Gold Medallion winner, Safely Home. He has written eighteen nonfiction books as well, including Heaven, The Treasure Principle, The Purity Principle, and The Grace and Truth Paradox. Randy and his wife, Nanci, live in Oregon and have two married daughters and four grandsons.
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September 22, 2009
The Hat Message
I talked about how it is a fun and crazy hat. It's bright orange and fuzzy. Yet, if you turn the brim of the hat up, you see a leopard pattern. Leopards are hunters. They hunt and kill other animals. So beneath the fun and frivolity, you find the pattern of a killer.
Our enemy is no different. He masquerades as an angel of light while he is really a killer. He works his best to package evil as something lighthearted and fun, but beneath it is eternal death.
I kept the message short and to the point. I closed with the point that if we want to escape eternal punishment, we have to allow God to be God in our lives. That means we must give him the right to point out things in our lives that displease Him and then when He does, we must change. Too often we accept and enjoy what God doesn't want us to partake of (the fun side of the hat). We may think it's harmless, but only God knows the end result in our lives of so called harmless fun (the killer side of the hat).
I ended with a call for every student to prayerfully ask God to examine them. After a few moments, I asked for students to raise their hand of they honestly felt God was pointing out something that He wanted them to stop doing or give up. I'd say at least half if not a little more raised their hands. I prayed over them, but then I left it in their hands. If God has pointed out something, they must make the decision to obey.
It felt like a powerful ending, but I hope it remains with them.
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September 17, 2009
The Hat
Anyway, this one is a stumper. I know with a hat people automatically think helmet of salvation, but this hat really doesn't conjure up images of strength and warfare. I know I could make one of my youth extremely happy if I preached on Samson while wearing the hat, only to take it off when I get to the part of Delilah cutting off his hair. Yet, wearing the hat definitely would be a distraction. The object is meant to help us learn something, not just be an amusing prop.
So, I need to figure something out. As always, I would love some ideas from people that read this. Either leave a comment on my blog or leave a comment to the post in Facebook.
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September 8, 2009
The Cottage Cheese Container
Tonight's "Everything a Message" had to deal with a cottage cheese container. My main emphasis was the three types of Christians represented by the container.
1. The Empty Container
A cottage cheese container is really only a cottage cheese container if there is cottage cheese in the container. That was as much fun to write as it is to say. The thought is that there are a lot of people that call themselves Christian, but inside their lives you don't find Christ. If Christ isn't living and working in you, then it doesn't matter what you say, you really aren't a Christian.
2. The Full Container
Cottage cheese in a container is meant to be consumed. For the Christian, we are to pour out what God pours into out lives. We pour out love to others because Christ freely pours love into us. The amazing thing is that we can never outpour God. The more we pour out the more He pours. Our lives should constantly be refilled by the Lord, and it happens as we share what He has done with others.
3. The Moldy Container
If you wait long enough, a container of cottage cheese will go bad if it isn't used. Sadly, some Christian have allowed God to pour into their lives, but they have refused to pour it out for others. Christ gives them love but they don't show love in to others. The work that God has done in them begins to sour and bitterness sets in. It falls in line with the example of the Dead Sea. All it does is take water in. There is no outlet for the water. With no outlet, the Dead Sea is...well...dead. Too many believers take and never give, then wonder why they seem so far away from God.
Well, that is what I came up with. Originally I had one more point that I wrote up but I scrapped it because it didn't seem to fit.
1. The Empty Container
A cottage cheese container is really only a cottage cheese container if there is cottage cheese in the container. That was as much fun to write as it is to say. The thought is that there are a lot of people that call themselves Christian, but inside their lives you don't find Christ. If Christ isn't living and working in you, then it doesn't matter what you say, you really aren't a Christian.
2. The Full Container
Cottage cheese in a container is meant to be consumed. For the Christian, we are to pour out what God pours into out lives. We pour out love to others because Christ freely pours love into us. The amazing thing is that we can never outpour God. The more we pour out the more He pours. Our lives should constantly be refilled by the Lord, and it happens as we share what He has done with others.
3. The Moldy Container
If you wait long enough, a container of cottage cheese will go bad if it isn't used. Sadly, some Christian have allowed God to pour into their lives, but they have refused to pour it out for others. Christ gives them love but they don't show love in to others. The work that God has done in them begins to sour and bitterness sets in. It falls in line with the example of the Dead Sea. All it does is take water in. There is no outlet for the water. With no outlet, the Dead Sea is...well...dead. Too many believers take and never give, then wonder why they seem so far away from God.
Well, that is what I came up with. Originally I had one more point that I wrote up but I scrapped it because it didn't seem to fit.
September 7, 2009
Timetables and Decisions
"Where we are in the great timetable has no real bearing on matters of right and wrong. Every day we're given choices and every day we have to make the right decisions. If I knew the King was returning tomorrow or in ten thousand years' time, it wouldn't alter my choice...we just battle evil until the whistle blows--whenever that is."
I personally believe in a Pre-Tribulation rapture of the church. I would fall into the Christ could return at any moment crowd. Often, we do speak in terms of we should live like Christ is returning tomorrow. However, what if we knew absolutely that Christ wasn't returning for a thousands of years? Would that change how we live? Does right and wrong only exist in a timetable where Christ is coming back soon?
We have been called to live holy lives in Christ. We have been called to do what's right no matter how long Christ chooses to tarry. No matter the number of days that remain for this world, I must make decisions that reflect my Lord.
September 5, 2009
Revisiting the Gnome
I realized that I never got back on here and shared what my message on the garden gnome was all about. I did some light research on gnomes and then narrowed it down to garden gnomes specifically. I stress the word "light" in my research. I gleaned four points about garden gnomes from this.
1. They are helpers.
2. They work behind the scenes.
3. They work to help things grow (in the garden).
4. Some people absolutely hate them.
With those four thoughts in mind, I preached about the Holy Spirit.
1. He is a helper the Lord has given us.
2. He works behind the scenes deep in our life.
3. He helps us to mature and grow.
4. There is an amazing amount of hatred for the Spirit today.
I thought the points were pretty good and it fit well. Now honesty. I got into the prep so much that I wan't thinking about length. I went longer than what I think is the max for youth that are listening. That was my fault. I should have worked more to streamline the message. Another proof of my lack of perfection.
Anyway, I enjoyed it and if you're following this blog, you know that we are on to our second item now. The cottage cheese carton.
1. They are helpers.
2. They work behind the scenes.
3. They work to help things grow (in the garden).
4. Some people absolutely hate them.
With those four thoughts in mind, I preached about the Holy Spirit.
1. He is a helper the Lord has given us.
2. He works behind the scenes deep in our life.
3. He helps us to mature and grow.
4. There is an amazing amount of hatred for the Spirit today.
I thought the points were pretty good and it fit well. Now honesty. I got into the prep so much that I wan't thinking about length. I went longer than what I think is the max for youth that are listening. That was my fault. I should have worked more to streamline the message. Another proof of my lack of perfection.
Anyway, I enjoyed it and if you're following this blog, you know that we are on to our second item now. The cottage cheese carton.
September 4, 2009
Cottage Cheese
Part 2 in the "Everything a Message." This past Tuesday there weren't many items brought. Quite a lot of head smacking and I forgot. However, a few items were placed out with some items scrounged from the church. This weeks top vote getter was a carton of large curd cottage cheese. Just to refresh, by next week I have to come up with a message that is in some way related to that carton. I think I might already have an idea. Would love for readers to post some of their ideas in the comments below.
September 1, 2009
It Was Worth It
I went to the department of health today to get the shots I needed for my missions trip to Kenya. Both arms are now covered in multiple band-aids from the experience. The thought I had as I was sitting there concerned the missionaries of the past.
They headed out into the world to spread the news of Jesus Christ without the benefit of vaccinations.
They headed out knowing that there was a high probability that they would never return.
They headed out willing to suffer if needed.
They headed out to lands where they often had to bury a child, a spouse, or both.
They headed out because the truth was burning so strongly in them that they couldn’t help but share it.
They headed out because that’s what we are called to do.
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They headed out into the world to spread the news of Jesus Christ without the benefit of vaccinations.
They headed out knowing that there was a high probability that they would never return.
They headed out willing to suffer if needed.
They headed out to lands where they often had to bury a child, a spouse, or both.
They headed out because the truth was burning so strongly in them that they couldn’t help but share it.
They headed out because that’s what we are called to do.
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August 27, 2009
Here Comes the Gnome
So basically, by next Tuesday I have to prayerfully come up with a message from the Word of God that is in some way based on this gnome.
I’ve already spent some time studying, praying, and thinking, and I do believe I already know what route I’m going to take. Need to spend some time fleshing the whole idea out, but I think it will work nicely.
I would love to have anyone that reads this to post some of their ideas on a basic message idea or thought that can be brought out of a garden gnome.
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August 26, 2009
Book Review - Deadlock
Publisher’s Info
The Zarbo brothers are seasoned outlaws with a reputation for killing. Already wanted in two states, they set their sights on Colorado and a string of bank robberies. They don’t count on running into Chief U.S. Marshal John Brockman.
John arrests Lee Zarbo, but his brothers remain in hiding. Lee’s sentence to death by hanging incites them to desperate measures. They’ll do anything to get him out alive. Even kidnap the Chief U.S. Marshal’s daughter.
When John learns of his young daughter’s captivity and the conditions for her release, he must turn to the Lord for direction. It takes all the faith he can muster to wait for the answer. Without freeing a dangerous criminal, can John find Ginny before they kill her?
Author Bio
Al Lacy is an evangelist and author of more than one hundred historical and Western novels, including the Journeys of the Stranger, Angel of Mercy, and Mail Order Bride series, with more than three million books in print. JoAnna Lacy, Al’s wife and longtime collaborator, is a retired nurse. The Lacys have been married over forty years and live in the Colorado Rockies.
Kelly’s Review
I have read some of Al & Joanna Lacy's other books that deal with the characters that were in Deadlock. It was nice to read a sequel and find out what happened with the characters. While the story was good and it was fun to read, I don't think it is very realistic. I like reading books with a Christian theme, but I find the Lacy's books to be a bit over the top. It seemed like every second paragraph someone was getting saved or quoting scripture to someone. The dialog was, in my opinion, cheesy. Maybe it is just me but I don't think people really talk like that all the time. I enjoy reading books set in the past and that is what I enjoyed about this book.
If you want to check it out for yourself, you can find it Amazon.
August 25, 2009
The Way I Like It
We had something happen Sunday night that I love to see happen, although it seems rare in this day and age. We had someone in our service baptized in the Holy Spirit. If you are reading this and don’t know what that is, take a look at Acts chapter 2 in the Bible for a starting point. In case it’s not clear, I’m a believer that God doesn’t change and what the early church needed we still need today.
With that said, what made this so incredible is that it just happened. Ministers that bring people up to receive the baptism in the Holy Spirit and then try to knock the person over or coax them with what to say leave a bad taste in my mouth. I don’t believe we teach or force people. We seek God and allow him to do it. It’s his gift to give.
On Sunday night, God moved into our service in a powerful way. I’m sorry to those that don’t believe, but you could sense that he was there. The entire service ended up being a time of worship and prayer. Good stuff. Then, after it was over and people left, I found out that one of our people had been filled. They had been worshipping God and suddenly realized that they were praying and praising in other languages. As they were just spending time worshipping God the filling came.
I love it that way. When God does what he desires as people seek him.
May there be many more in the days ahead and then, may we each live every day full of the Holy Spirit.
With that said, what made this so incredible is that it just happened. Ministers that bring people up to receive the baptism in the Holy Spirit and then try to knock the person over or coax them with what to say leave a bad taste in my mouth. I don’t believe we teach or force people. We seek God and allow him to do it. It’s his gift to give.
On Sunday night, God moved into our service in a powerful way. I’m sorry to those that don’t believe, but you could sense that he was there. The entire service ended up being a time of worship and prayer. Good stuff. Then, after it was over and people left, I found out that one of our people had been filled. They had been worshipping God and suddenly realized that they were praying and praising in other languages. As they were just spending time worshipping God the filling came.
I love it that way. When God does what he desires as people seek him.
May there be many more in the days ahead and then, may we each live every day full of the Holy Spirit.
August 18, 2009
Project BC
August 8, 2009
Book Review - The Hope of Refuge
Publisher’s Summary.
Raised in foster care and now the widowed mother of a little girl, Cara Moore struggles against poverty, fear, and a relentless stalker. When a trail of memories leads Cara and Lori out of New York City toward an Amish community, she follows every lead, eager for answers and a fresh start. She discovers that long-held secrets about her family history ripple beneath the surface of Dry Lake, Pennsylvania, and it’s no place for an outsider. But one Amish man, Ephraim Mast, dares to fulfill the command he believes that he received from God–“Be me to her”– despite how it threatens his way of life.
Completely opposite of the hard, untrusting Cara, Ephraim’s sister Deborah also finds her dreams crumbling when the man she has pledged to build a life with begins withdrawing from Deborah and his community, including his mother, Ada Stoltzfus. Can the run-down house that Ada envisions transforming unite them toward a common purpose–or push Mahlon away forever? While Ephraim is trying to do what he believes is right, will he be shunned and lose everything–including the guarded single mother who simply longs for a better life?
Author Bio
Cindy Woodsmall is the author of When the Heart Cries, When the Morning Comes, and The New York Times Best-Seller When the Soul Mends. Her ability to authentically capture the heart of her characters comes from her real-life connections with Amish Mennonite and Old Order Amish families. A mother of three sons and two daughters-in-law, Cindy lives in Georgia with her husband of thirty-one years.
Kelly’s Thoughts
This was a great book. I really enjoy reading books about the Amish. I think that the author does a great job of telling how life is with the Amish. She makes it easy to fall in love with the characters and their seemingly more simple lifestyle. I enjoyed how reading how the two cultures mixed and resolved conflict within the story. It ends with room to continue the story and I would love to see if there is a sequel someday. I felt like the characters were so real and would like to know what happens in their lives. I would recommend this book to anyone who enjoys this type of fiction. I know I will be watching for other books by Cindy Woodsmall in the future.
Check it out on Amazon.com.
July 30, 2009
Book Rec - I Sold My Soul on Ebay
The premise is fascinating to me because the book winds up being the story of an atheist having to attend a variety of churches at the request of his Ebay buyer. What follows are some candid observations from an atheist as he finds both services he enjoys and others that wanted to fall asleep in. Having grown up in the church, it becomes easy to accept things because that’s just the way they are. Having a man that most would designate as an outsider to the Christian faith step into churches and offer critique sounds crazy, but it provides some interesting insights.
In fact, I found myself completely agreeing with his opinion that worship (singing) portions at some churches go on for extreme amounts of time and basically are filled with one chorus being repeated again and again and again. That’s a completely different blog post, but it was amusing to find myself on common ground with an atheist concerning a common (it seems) church practice.
Will you agree with everything he writes? Most assuredly you won’t. Will the ending disappoint you? If you want him a Christian by the end of the book you better not pick it up. Will your faith and the way we do church be challenged? Yeah, and that’s probably a good thing.
July 28, 2009
Everything a Message
This past Sunday with a host of people away, I not only had to preach both services but I also filled in for the teen Sunday School class. Needing something to do with them, I decided to go this route. Don’t think me insanely creative, but I got the idea from Brent Salyers at Camp X. I gave them an object from the room and they had to come up with a basic lesson from the Bible that the object could help illustrate.
The best one in my opinion came when I put out a piece of Sugar Daddy candy. One of my youth (you’re awesome Brianne) came up with the basic idea that it doesn’t matter what the wrapper looks like, it is what’s inside that counts. You can run with in a variety of directions. Perhaps a message on hypocrisy and putting a “Christian” wrapper on when you are anything but a Christian. Or, you could go with a message on how God looks beyond physical appearance to heart. It was a great time and I heard a lot of great ideas.
In fact, I enjoyed it so much that we’re going to do it again at our youth services tonight. I’m going to speak a little about allowing God to teach you as you walk through your day and then give them some opportunities to think creatively again.
It might bomb completely. I might have to get up one night and honestly say that I couldn’t come up with anything. Yet, I think the God that created the universe can work with me to come with something interesting. I’m looking forward to the challenge.
Oh, in case you’re wondering why I’m promoting this so early, it’s simply because we have some events and another trip to the Warren Family Mission coming up during August. Just wanted to get it on the radar.
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July 27, 2009
The Curse of the Meatloaf
Now, my brilliant readers out there may accuse the recipe as the being the problem. Trust me, I wish I could blame the recipe, but remember, my mom makes it and it comes out fine. Even worse, my wife can make the meatloaf following the exact recipe that I do and it turns out fine. I love her, but that’s a little frustrating.
I guess there’s a moral to all this though, and if you know what it is, please leave me a comment so I can know it too.
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July 24, 2009
I Hang My Head in Shame
So that leads me to today. I am currently 227 pounds. That’s a loss of around 7 pounds in less than a week. It’s always nice kicking off the diet because the first pounds drop off so quickly. Then, it slows down.
I’m leaving the picture with red text. Green has always meant loss, but I’m not considering it loss till I’m back down to where I was.
Book Review - A Perfect Mess
Summary
Caught up in the self-imposed pressure to do and be all the things they think a Christian woman ought to do and be, countless women are working desperately to convince everyone, including God, that they have it all together. Few have any idea that the Creator of the universe looks at them with delight even when they yell at the dog, drive a minivan littered with French fries, or think bad words about that rude clerk at the store.
A Perfect Mess offers hope to every woman who yearns for a vibrant relationship with God but worries she isn’t good enough or doesn’t do enough to merit His affection. With characteristic authenticity, speaker and author Lisa Harper shares poignant stories from her own imperfect life to showcase the real-life relevancy of the Bible in the lives of modern women.
As she guides readers on a story-driven journey through selected Psalms, they will be inspired to experience for themselves how God’s incomparable love transforms the messiness of life into a gorgeous work of grace.
Author Bio
Lisa Harper is a master storyteller whose lively approach connects the dots between the Bible era and modern life. She is a sought-after Bible teacher and speaker whose upcoming appearances include the national Women of Faith Conferences. A veteran of numerous radio and television programs and the author of several books, she also is a regular columnist for Today’s Christian Woman magazine. Lisa recently completed a master’s of theological studies from Covenant Theological Seminary. She makes her home outside Nashville.
Kelly’s Thoughts
I was able to get about half way through this book. Each chapter goes through one Psalm and helps you to see how God sees you. The questions to answer at the end of each chapter really make you reflect on what you read as well as the Psalm that the chapter focuses on. It helps you to see how much God loves you the way you are and wants you to closer to him. God does not expect us to be perfect, he just wants us to be closer to him. God wants to work in our lives to make us more like him. I really enjoyed reading this book and look forward to finishing it soon.
Here’s a link to Random House to check the book out.
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I Hang My Head in Shame
Well, I haven’t posted my health report for quite some time. I got off the diet and have been a little embarrassed by the results. I went from a low of 213 all the way up to 234. I can blame my vacation and many other things, but it comes down to the fact that I simply quit. Anyway, I’m hitting it hard again. The possibility of heading to Kenya has got it into my mind again that I need to do this. There’s no doubt that it would be beneficial to have the weight off.
So that leads me to today. I am currently 227 pounds. That’s a loss of around 7 pounds in less than a week. It’s always nice kicking off the diet because the first pounds drop off so quickly. Then, it slows down.
I’m leaving the picture with red text. Green has always meant loss, but I’m not considering it loss till I’m back down to where I was.
So that leads me to today. I am currently 227 pounds. That’s a loss of around 7 pounds in less than a week. It’s always nice kicking off the diet because the first pounds drop off so quickly. Then, it slows down.
I’m leaving the picture with red text. Green has always meant loss, but I’m not considering it loss till I’m back down to where I was.
July 22, 2009
If All Goes Well
I got my passport application turned in today and my mind is racing with the various things that I think I might have to do. Granted, the trip isn’t a given yet. There are still a lot of things that have to come together for me to be able to go. I’ll keep moving forward with it and we’ll se what happens.
July 21, 2009
I Got To Sit And Watch
My youth ministry and I went back to the Warren Family Mission today. It was an awesome experience because I basically had to do nothing. My students jumped right in and just did the work. They hung out with and played with kids that were there. They were flexible when our plans for the day had to be changed in an instant. Basically, they did what needed to be done without much prodding from us. I literally sat and was able just to watch them in action.
A lot of my position is to lead and be out in front. Just a couple years ago I would have had to do everything, but that’s not the case anymore. It’s a good feeling. May there be many more opportunities for me to sit and watch my youth do ministry, and then more opportunities to work right beside them.
A lot of my position is to lead and be out in front. Just a couple years ago I would have had to do everything, but that’s not the case anymore. It’s a good feeling. May there be many more opportunities for me to sit and watch my youth do ministry, and then more opportunities to work right beside them.
July 20, 2009
Stepping Out In Faith
I have decided to step out in faith and pursue a missions trip opportunity that has been given to me. While I won’t go into details here at this time, I’m excited about it. I’ve started the work to get my passport and I’m already mentally making lists of what I would need. The trip is months and months away, but I want to be ready.
I really believe it could be something that the Lord has for me. I’m praying, pursuing some preliminary steps, and keeping an open heart. I don’t feel any check in my spirit at this time, but I sure want to be open for the Lord to stop me if need be.
At this stage of the game, if I end up not going I’m only out the money for the passport. Of course, I can always use it to go visit Niagara Falls. I know you can see Niagara from the American side, but the Canadian side is much better.
That’s were I’m at and I will post more once things get more set in stone.
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I really believe it could be something that the Lord has for me. I’m praying, pursuing some preliminary steps, and keeping an open heart. I don’t feel any check in my spirit at this time, but I sure want to be open for the Lord to stop me if need be.
At this stage of the game, if I end up not going I’m only out the money for the passport. Of course, I can always use it to go visit Niagara Falls. I know you can see Niagara from the American side, but the Canadian side is much better.
That’s were I’m at and I will post more once things get more set in stone.
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Stepping Out In Faith
I have decided to step out in faith and pursue a missions trip opportunity that has been given to me. While I won’t go into details here at this time, I’m excited about it. I’ve started the work to get my passport and I’m already mentally making lists of what I would need. The trip is months and months away, but I want to be ready.
I really believe it could be something that the Lord has for me. I’m praying, pursuing some preliminary steps, and keeping an open heart. I don’t feel any check in my spirit at this time, but I sure want to be open for the Lord to stop me if need be.
At this stage of the game, if I end up not going I’m only out the money for the passport. Of course, I can always use it to go visit Niagara Falls. I know you can see Niagara from the American side, but the Canadian side is much better.
That’s were I’m at and I will post more once things get more set in stone.
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I really believe it could be something that the Lord has for me. I’m praying, pursuing some preliminary steps, and keeping an open heart. I don’t feel any check in my spirit at this time, but I sure want to be open for the Lord to stop me if need be.
At this stage of the game, if I end up not going I’m only out the money for the passport. Of course, I can always use it to go visit Niagara Falls. I know you can see Niagara from the American side, but the Canadian side is much better.
That’s were I’m at and I will post more once things get more set in stone.
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July 18, 2009
Book Review - Holy Roller
Summary
Julie Lyons was working as a crime reporter when she followed a hunch into the South Dallas ghetto. She wasn’t hunting drug dealers, but drug addicts who had been supernaturally healed of their addictions. Was there a church in the most violent part of the city that prayed for addicts and got results?
At The Body of Christ Assembly, a rundown church on an out-of-the-way street, Lyons found the story she was looking for. The minister welcomed criminals, prostitutes, and street people–anyone who needed God. He prayed for the sick, the addicted, and the demon-possessed, and people were supernaturally healed.
Lyons’s story landed on the front page of the Dallas Times Herald. But she got much more than just a great story, she found an unlikely spiritual home. Though the parishioners at The Body of Christ Assembly are black and Pentecostal, and Lyons is white and from a traditional church background, she embraced their spirituality–that of “the Holy Ghost and fire.”
It’s all here in Holy Roller–the stories of people desperate for God’s help. And the actions of a God who doesn’t forget the people who need His power.
My Thoughts
So far the book has captured my attention. It takes you into the life of the author while also focusing on the pastor of this church. His testimony is powerful. Being a pentecostal myself, I’m looking forward to seeing where the book is going to ultimately lead. From the description and what I’ve read so far, it’s a book testifying to an all powerful God that still actively works in the lives of people no matter where they are. The first few chapters have been worth the read. I’ll try to give my final conclusion in a few days.
Here’s a links to Amazon or the Random House website if you’d like more info.
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The Beard
Just a perfectly pointless story to share. I grew a full beard on my vacation and kept. Just because I thought it would be crazy, I went to Camp X and shaved off a part of it every day. I went from full beard on Monday to a mustache goatee with long sideburns on Tuesday. Wednesday found me with the mustache gone. On Thursday I got rid of the sideburns and to wrap it up, on Friday I shaved down to just a small soul patch. I haven’t been without my goatee since I was a sophomore in college. That was over ten years ago. The best part, on the last day of camp I asked the tract I was working with which look of the week was the best. Everyone was talking at once, but the words I remember being the most clear were something to the effect of, “the other day you wore a brown shirt with jeans and some light brown shoes and that looked pretty good on you.” I can’t remember exactly who said it, but it was perfect timing. So in honor of that, I wore the same color scheme today. I mean, if it looks good, why mess with it?
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July 11, 2009
Book Reviews - Summer Grab Bag
Things have been really crazy and the blog has had to take a back seat. Here’s two quick book reviews by Kelly.
A Promise for Breanna by Al Lacy
Summary
Suspense, danger, romance and spiritual truth each play a part in this heroine’s life as she faces the man who once broke her heart and led her to mistrust men.
Kelly’s Thoughts
This was a good book. I have read many of Al Lacy's books before and find them enjoyable. I thought for some reason that this was a new book. I realized about half way through that I have read this before. I kept reading. It had been many years since I read this the first time. It was good this time through too. I like reading this type of fiction because it takes you to a different time and place.
A Gathering of Finches by Jane Kirkpatrick
Summary:
A turn-of-the-century Oregon coastal couples’ life is seen through the eyes of the wife, her sister, and her Indian maid who discover reasons why money and possessions can’t buy happiness, forgiveness or relieve consequences of choices.
Kelly’s Thoughts
This book was interesting to me. I was unsure of how it would turn out and that kept me reading. Being historical fiction it is somewhat based on true events. I did not like most of the book is based on an adulterous relationship. It is not something I agree with. I am glad that the main character finally realized she was wrong for the things she had done in her life. It was fun learning about the time period and all that happened along the Oregon coast in around the turn of the 20 century.
As always, you can find the books on Amazon.com.
Summary
Suspense, danger, romance and spiritual truth each play a part in this heroine’s life as she faces the man who once broke her heart and led her to mistrust men.
Kelly’s Thoughts
This was a good book. I have read many of Al Lacy's books before and find them enjoyable. I thought for some reason that this was a new book. I realized about half way through that I have read this before. I kept reading. It had been many years since I read this the first time. It was good this time through too. I like reading this type of fiction because it takes you to a different time and place.
A Gathering of Finches by Jane Kirkpatrick
Summary:
A turn-of-the-century Oregon coastal couples’ life is seen through the eyes of the wife, her sister, and her Indian maid who discover reasons why money and possessions can’t buy happiness, forgiveness or relieve consequences of choices.
Kelly’s Thoughts
This book was interesting to me. I was unsure of how it would turn out and that kept me reading. Being historical fiction it is somewhat based on true events. I did not like most of the book is based on an adulterous relationship. It is not something I agree with. I am glad that the main character finally realized she was wrong for the things she had done in her life. It was fun learning about the time period and all that happened along the Oregon coast in around the turn of the 20 century.
As always, you can find the books on Amazon.com.
June 16, 2009
It Is An Honor to Serve
I have been granted the incredible privilege in my life to serve an amazing group of students. They keep me young while constantly reminding me of my fading hairline. My hope and prayer is that each and every one of them will hold onto Christ and never let go. I want nothing less than to spend eternity with every one of them.
To any of my youth that read this, I really mean it when I write that it is an honor to serve you.
To any of my youth that read this, I really mean it when I write that it is an honor to serve you.
June 15, 2009
Add It To The Day
I had a lot of plans for today. After being gone for a week with my youth on a missions trip, I had a lot of catching up to do. The start of my day had me driving to a nearby city to correct an order error that had been made on a batch of t-shirts we had made. About halfway there my car decided to die. Within an hour my car was in the shop and the early prognosis was a fuel pump.
That one event pretty much messed up my day. I’d like to be able to say that I was a triumphant Christian that didn’t let an expensive repair bring me down, but I did. Everything from that point on just seemed to be piling it on. The title of this post was what I kept telling myself, just add it to the day.
My emotions got the better of me when they really shouldn’t have. It wasn’t like life ended or anything. Looking back now, I see that the whole day moved rather smoothly for what happened. I had my cell phone on me so within minutes I had a tow truck coming for me and a repair shop waiting for the car. Within a half hour, I was sitting at the repair shop which conveniently is within walking distance from my apartment. I was able to get some work done before my mom picked me up and took me into the church (added bonus, she bought me a sandwich for lunch). Later, she allowed me to take her car until my car is fixed. The final thing is that I have most of the money for the repair. I’ve blogged before about the budget software that my wife and I use. Part of our budget sets aside money for repairs and thankfully it had been building up for a while.
So, at the end of the day I have to realize that God had things under control and I should have remained positive. Harder said than done, but it would have been worth the effort.
That one event pretty much messed up my day. I’d like to be able to say that I was a triumphant Christian that didn’t let an expensive repair bring me down, but I did. Everything from that point on just seemed to be piling it on. The title of this post was what I kept telling myself, just add it to the day.
My emotions got the better of me when they really shouldn’t have. It wasn’t like life ended or anything. Looking back now, I see that the whole day moved rather smoothly for what happened. I had my cell phone on me so within minutes I had a tow truck coming for me and a repair shop waiting for the car. Within a half hour, I was sitting at the repair shop which conveniently is within walking distance from my apartment. I was able to get some work done before my mom picked me up and took me into the church (added bonus, she bought me a sandwich for lunch). Later, she allowed me to take her car until my car is fixed. The final thing is that I have most of the money for the repair. I’ve blogged before about the budget software that my wife and I use. Part of our budget sets aside money for repairs and thankfully it had been building up for a while.
So, at the end of the day I have to realize that God had things under control and I should have remained positive. Harder said than done, but it would have been worth the effort.
June 12, 2009
Book Review - Sisterchicks in Wooden Shoes
Description:
When a mammogram result comes back abnormal, midlife mama Summer Finley makes a snap decision to relegate fear to the back burner and fulfill a lifelong dream. Summer heads for Holland where she meets up with tulips, wooden shoes, and her best friend, Noelle.
Pen pals since fourth grade, Summer and Noelle have never met face-to-face. Through decades of heart-level correspondence, they have sustained a deep friendship. A week of adventure helps both women trade anxiety for a renewed and deeper trust in God. When Summer confides in Noelle about the abnormal medical report, Noelle finds the freedom to share a long-held heartache, and both women discover they needed each other more than they realized.
Women ages 35 and up, readers of Christian Boomer Lit, and fans of books such as The Yada Yada Prayer Group will enjoy Robin Jones Gunn’s humorous and uplifting style. True-to-life characters and moments of poignancy bring a deeper understanding of the value of life and the gift of true friends. Readers guide and bonus material included.
Author Bio:
Robin Jones Gunn is the best-selling and award-winning author of over seventy books, including the Glenbrooke, Christy Miller, Sierra Jensen, Katie Weldon, and Christy and Todd: The College Years teen series. The Sisterchicks® series has sold more than 300,000 units, bringing her total sales to more than 3.5 million books worldwide. A Christy Award winner, Robin is a popular speaker, both at home and abroad, and is frequently interviewed on radio and on television
Kelly’s Thoughts:
I really enjoyed this book. The author grabs your interest right from the start and keeps you wanting more at the end. I enjoyed reading about all the places they went to while touring in the Netherlands, especially since I had been there before. I thought the spiritual transformation that both women experience as a result of their time together was good. It was a great lesson in learning to forgive as well as learning to completely trust God. The characters learn so much from each other and have a blast being together. It was fun reading it. At times I was laughing so hard and other times I was on the verge of tears. It truly is a book about sisterhood and I would recommend it to all my friends. I have never read anything by Robin Jones Gunn before but I will be looking for more of her books in the future.
Check the book out at Amazon.
June 4, 2009
Keep Pressing On
It is difficult at times to really hold on to the fact that the pains of this life one day will pass away. We suffer now, often unjustly, but in the end eternity with God will wipe away all the pains.
Our task is simple. We hold on. No matter what happens. No matter the cost. It’s the theme that I’ve been trying to drill into the head of my youth (and myself) this year.
Whatever It Takes.
That’s my prayer for anyone that reads this. I pray that you will do whatever it takes to spend eternity with God.
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” Hebrews 12:1
May 30, 2009
Book Review - The Night Watchman
Ray Quinn is a tough, quick-witted homicide detective in love with his partner, Trisha Willis. She gives Ray something to live for—something to hope in. Until a barrage of bullets leaves Trisha murdered and Ray crippled.
Struggling with his new physical disability and severe depression, Quinn turns to whiskey, scorn, and a job as a night watchman to numb the pain. But when a pastor and dancer are found dead in an apparent murder-suicide, the pastor’s sister approaches Quinn for help.
Reluctantly, Quinn takes the case and is plunged into the perilous Orlando. Soon he discovers that, not only was the pastor murdered, but the case may be linked to his and Trisha’s ambush. Torn between seeking revenge or responsibility, Quinn is thrust into the case of his life.
Author Mark Mynheir gives readers his most profound police thriller to date with The Night Watchman (first book in The Night Watchman Private Detective Agency Series). Readers of all ages will devour this gripping murder mystery that bristles with tension and intrigue. In a taut cop-style all his own, Mynheir delivers an inside look at the thoughts, feelings, fears, and challenges police officers experience while investigating violent crimes and the lost souls who commit them.
Author Bio:
A detective with the Criminal Investigations Unit of the Palm Bay Police Department, Mark Mynheir investigates violent crimes and writes riveting Christian fiction. A U.S. Marine with a passion for martial arts and firearms training, Mark has worked on narcotics units, SWAT teams, and myriad high-risk situations. His four novels offer a realistic glimpse into the gritty world of law enforcement and the rarely seen raw emotions behind the badge. Mark lives in Florida with his wife and three children.
My Thoughts
I’ve been reviewing a lot of serious books lately so it was a nice change of pace to read a piece of fiction. “The Night Watchman” was a good read both in plot and in character development. An unwilling crippled former police detective turned night watchman who is drawn into a murder investigation makes for good reading. I will also give credit to the author for not being overly suffocating with the Christianity portrayed in the story. I know some works of Christian fiction have basically every character accepting Christ by the end. I love my Lord, but in real life not everyone accepts him. Good fiction should reflect reality. In the story, the main character begins heading in the direction of Christ, but even at the end he has a ways to go.
Overall, a good story worthy of a place in your lazy days of summer reading list.
You can check out some purchase options at Random House.
May 28, 2009
Book Winner - Hero
Congratulations to Todd for commenting and winning the copy of “Hero” that was reviewed last week. All entries were assigned a number and then I used random.org to pick the number of the winner. I will be getting the book out to you real soon.
May 22, 2009
Battling
This weekend entails me taking my wife out for her birthday, a family gathering celebrating multiple birthdays in May, and of course Memorial Day. If I would have stayed on track I could be closing in on 200 instead of losing the same five pounds again and again.
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May 21, 2009
Win a Copy of Hero
I completely forgot to mention in my last post that I have a copy of the book to giveaway. Just leave a comment to this post or the actual review and you will be entered to win. I will draw the winner next Wednesday.
Book Review - Hero
Description
You already know it’s not easy being a single man in this culture today. But it is easy to be overwhelmed, to feel helpless and hopeless about living by God’s high standards for singles. It’s easy to cave in to the pressures of this sex-soaked world and accept defeat—blaming the media, the culture, even girlfriends who don’t know how tough it can be.
But many men have read books like Every Young Man’s Battle and Tactics and have committed themselves to stand strong and pure in the power of God, and to go on the offensive against the onslaught of negative stereotypes. Some have suffered. Some have fallen. But many have experienced victory—and you can be among them.
What makes those committed men so desirable to women? Be Her Hero is their motto. From best-selling author Fred Stoeker, along with his son Jasen, come the straightforward insight and real-life examples you’re looking for to help you take personal purity to its logical conclusion. Here’s straight truth with irrefutable evidence of what makes an ultimate hero to women who long for men of faith—men who stand by their convictions and make their world a safer and better place.
Are you ready to accept the challenge?
Authors Bios
Fred Stoeker is a best-selling author of several books, including Every Young Man’s Battle and Tactics, the president of Living True Ministries, and a popular conference speaker who challenges men to become sexually pure, to reconnect in true intimate relationship with their wives, and to train their sons to become godly men. A graduate of Stanford University, Fred lives in Des Moines, Iowa with his wife, Brenda, and their children.
Mike Yorkey, a writer living in Encinitas, California, has collaborated with Fred Stoeker in all his books for the Every Man’s series.
Jasen Stoeker is a popular conference speaker who challenges young men to be heroic in their relationships with women and to be a Christian, rather than just seem like one. Jasen is a graduate of Iowa State University with degrees in Computer Engineering and Computer Science and now lives in Minneapolis, MN, with his wife Rose.
My thoughts
I’ve read various books by Fred Stoeker and have always been challenged by them. I’m sure they don’t sit well with some people because they’re very open and honest about the struggles that men have with lust and pornography. I’ve read comments in the past mocking the books (even from so called Christians) for the books’ strong stance on Ephesians 5:3, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” I’ll be honest, there have been times where I’ve felt that it is almost impossible to live up to the standards God has commanded and that these books champion. It can be done though and the results are worth it.
While his previous books have dealt more with lust, this book tackles the issue from the perspective of being the man that women really want. A man of uncompromising standards and integrity, A man that will fight tooth and nail to preserve his purity and the purity of the women around him. Fred brings in his son’s perspective, a man that has chosen this path and had victory. The testimony is pretty amazing.
The book challenges us to lives worthy of Christ. This means taking strong stands on holiness. It means making hard choices even when those around us are willing to compromise. While the target audience is young men (single of course), it convicted me again and again as a man that has been married for several years now. It opened my eyes once again to myself and even more, it has caused me to turn my eyes to my 18 month old son. His battle is still several years away, but I need to be ready to walk with him through it.
Let me wrap up this review with one thought that hit me hard from the chapter “The Promise of Pain.” Fred writes, “Sex is not a guy’s ticket to manhood. Suffering is.” As men, we grow the most when we are put in a place of pain. We draw nearer to Christ and find true male maturity when we suffer yet remain strong. Maybe it’s just me, but that was an eye opener. The more I reflect on it the more I’m beginning to believe it. Scripture consistently tells us to be willing to suffer for the Lord. The heroes of the faith always suffered. In this fight for holiness, it will mean suffering.
This is a powerful book. I completely and totally recommend it.
Check out the book at the Random House website or buy it from my favorite bookseller Amazon.
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May 18, 2009
Praying For Power
My pastor preached a message last night on praying for the power. The book of Acts is a book that is drenched with God’s power. We see a small group of people that completely changed the world. Not because of their own wisdom or creativity, but because God was at work in them.
So often it feels like we pray for God to bless our ideas and plans instead of taking the time to seek Him and allow Him to fill us with his power. What would happen if God’s people would humbly begin to pray and seek Him? What if the power we see displayed in Acts was once again displayed for the market places of our world to see? What if healings began to take place at Starbucks? What if demons that had controlled and tormented some people for years were cast out? What if our walk with Christ reflected what we see in Scripture?
It’s beginning to stir my heart. It’s time to stop talking about the power of God. It’s time to draw close enough for the power of God to begin working in and through us.
So often it feels like we pray for God to bless our ideas and plans instead of taking the time to seek Him and allow Him to fill us with his power. What would happen if God’s people would humbly begin to pray and seek Him? What if the power we see displayed in Acts was once again displayed for the market places of our world to see? What if healings began to take place at Starbucks? What if demons that had controlled and tormented some people for years were cast out? What if our walk with Christ reflected what we see in Scripture?
It’s beginning to stir my heart. It’s time to stop talking about the power of God. It’s time to draw close enough for the power of God to begin working in and through us.
May 8, 2009
Book Reviews
This week’s books are reviewed by my wife Kelly.
Publisher’s Description for “Mama’s Got a Fake I.D
Formula for identity loss:
1. Take one multifaceted, intriguing human being.
2. Bless her with a child.
3. Mix with today’s cultural assumptions.
4. Add the demands of motherhood.
5. Presto! All identity except Mom disappears.
For every woman wondering what happened to the unique combination of gifts and abilities she was known for before kids came along, Caryn Dahlstrand Rivedeneira has good news: in Mama’s Got a Fake I.D., Rivedeneira helps moms reclaim their full identity as creative beings, gifted professionals and volunteers, loving friends, children of God—and mothers.
This inspiring and practical guide shows women how to break free from false guilt, learn a new language to express who they really are, and follow God’s lead in sharing their true self with others. After all, motherhood doesn’t have to mean losing one’s identity. Instead, being a mom makes it possible for a woman to discover a more complete identity as the person God made her to be.
Author Bio:
The former managing editor of Marriage Partnership and Christian Parenting Today, Caryn Dahlstrand Rivedeneira has been a trusted voice writing and speaking to women for more than a decade. Today she is the managing editor of GiftedForLeadership.com, an online community for Christian women in leadership. Rivadeneira works from home in the Chicago suburbs, where she lives with her husband and their three children.
Publisher’s Description for Dear Mom
Every mom knows how communicating with a teenage girl can be difficult, even impossible at times. One-word answers. Defensive conversations. Daily arguments. How typical for teens to put up such barriers. All the while, moms truly long to know what their daughters really think.
Best-selling author Melody Carlson, whose books for women, teens, and children have sold more than three million copies, bridges this chasm with trusted insight. She speaks frankly in the voice of the teen daughters she’s written for and she tells it like it is: struggles with identity, guys, friendship, and even parents—it’s all here. The straight-talk to moms covers such things as “I need you, but you can’t make me admit it,” “I’m not as confident as I appear,” and “I have friends. I need a mother.”
Instead of focusing on outward behaviors, Dear Mom looks at a young woman’s heart and reveals to moms:
· how to talk to teens so they hear,
· how to connect despite the differences of perspective or years and experiences,
· and how strengthen the bond every mom and daughter ultimately wants.
The lively chapters in Dear Mom can be dipped into topically or used as a read-through tool by moms and daughters alike to understand what motivates or deflates, troubles or inspires—and just in time for Mother’s Day and all the Mother’s Days ahead.
Author Bio:
Melody Carlson is the award-winning author of more than one hundred books for adults, children, and teens, with sales totaling more than three million copies. Beloved for her Diary of a Teenage Girl and Notes from a Spinning Planet series, she’s also the author of the women’s novels Finding Alice (in production now for a Lifetime-TV movie), Crystal Lies, On This Day, These Boots Weren’t Made for Walking, and A Mile in My Flip-Flops. A mother of two grown sons, Melody lives in central Oregon with her husband and chocolate lab retriever. She’s a full-time writer and an avid gardener, biker, skier, and hiker.
Publisher’s Description for Enduring Justice
In Enduring Justice, Hanna Kessler’s childhood secret has remained buried for over two decades. But when the dark shadows of her past threaten to destroy those she loves, Hanna must face the summer that changed her life and the man who still haunts her thoughts.
Crimes Against Children FBI Agent, Michael Parker knows what it means to get knocked down. And when the system fails and a white supremacist is set free, Michael’s drive for retribution eclipses all else.
A racist’s well-planned assault forces Hanna and Michael to decide between executing vengeance and pursuing justice. When the attack turns personal, is healing still possible?
This thought-provoking novel deals with healing from sexual abuse, the balance of justice and mercy, and maintaining mixed-race friendships in the midst of racial tension. Readers who enjoy investigative thrillers by Dee Henderson, Colleen Coble, and Catherine Coulter, and who watch crime dramas like Law & Order: SVU, Criminal Minds, and Without a Trace will love this book—and the entire series.
Author Bio:
Amy Wallace is the author of Ransomed Dreams and Healing Promises, a homeschool mom, and self-confessed chocoholic. She is a graduate of the Gwinnett County Citizens Police Academy and a contributing author of several books including God Answers Moms’ Prayers and Chicken Soup for the Soul Healthy Living Series: Diabetes. She lives with her husband and three children in Georgia.
Kelly’s Reviews
“Mama’s Got a Fake I.D.
I picked up this book and thought it looked exciting. I thought it would be about how I can find my true identity. And in a way it was but it was also about being okay with not wanting to be ‘just a mom’. I am a mom who loves being just that, a mom. I truly enjoy being a mom. I love spending each and every day with my children. The book talked a lot about mothers who love being a mom as part of who they are. It almost made me feel guilty for liking being a mom. I know being a mom is not all that I am. I am so much more of a complex person, but I know that being a mom is what I am called to do and I love it. I think this book is tailored to moms who may be struggling with finding a balance between being a mom and everything else they do. It had great things to say and do to help all moms discover who they are in Christ.
“Dear Mom”
This was a good book. I did not get all of it read, but from what I was able to finish I would recommend it to moms that have teenage or soon to be teenage daughters. It will give you great insight into ways to talk with your daughter. It shows ways to open the lines of communication and how to be there for your daughter without making her resent you.
Enduring Justice
I had all these books to read about being a mother and to be honest, I’ve spent the past few couple of weeks being just that. What I’m basically saying is that I didn’t have time to read this book. Looks really good and I plan on reading it in the near future.
You can find the books on the Random House website at the following links.
Mama’s Got a Fake I.D.
Dear Mom
Enduring Justice
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Formula for identity loss:
1. Take one multifaceted, intriguing human being.
2. Bless her with a child.
3. Mix with today’s cultural assumptions.
4. Add the demands of motherhood.
5. Presto! All identity except Mom disappears.
For every woman wondering what happened to the unique combination of gifts and abilities she was known for before kids came along, Caryn Dahlstrand Rivedeneira has good news: in Mama’s Got a Fake I.D., Rivedeneira helps moms reclaim their full identity as creative beings, gifted professionals and volunteers, loving friends, children of God—and mothers.
This inspiring and practical guide shows women how to break free from false guilt, learn a new language to express who they really are, and follow God’s lead in sharing their true self with others. After all, motherhood doesn’t have to mean losing one’s identity. Instead, being a mom makes it possible for a woman to discover a more complete identity as the person God made her to be.
Author Bio:
The former managing editor of Marriage Partnership and Christian Parenting Today, Caryn Dahlstrand Rivedeneira has been a trusted voice writing and speaking to women for more than a decade. Today she is the managing editor of GiftedForLeadership.com, an online community for Christian women in leadership. Rivadeneira works from home in the Chicago suburbs, where she lives with her husband and their three children.
Every mom knows how communicating with a teenage girl can be difficult, even impossible at times. One-word answers. Defensive conversations. Daily arguments. How typical for teens to put up such barriers. All the while, moms truly long to know what their daughters really think.
Best-selling author Melody Carlson, whose books for women, teens, and children have sold more than three million copies, bridges this chasm with trusted insight. She speaks frankly in the voice of the teen daughters she’s written for and she tells it like it is: struggles with identity, guys, friendship, and even parents—it’s all here. The straight-talk to moms covers such things as “I need you, but you can’t make me admit it,” “I’m not as confident as I appear,” and “I have friends. I need a mother.”
Instead of focusing on outward behaviors, Dear Mom looks at a young woman’s heart and reveals to moms:
· how to talk to teens so they hear,
· how to connect despite the differences of perspective or years and experiences,
· and how strengthen the bond every mom and daughter ultimately wants.
The lively chapters in Dear Mom can be dipped into topically or used as a read-through tool by moms and daughters alike to understand what motivates or deflates, troubles or inspires—and just in time for Mother’s Day and all the Mother’s Days ahead.
Author Bio:
Melody Carlson is the award-winning author of more than one hundred books for adults, children, and teens, with sales totaling more than three million copies. Beloved for her Diary of a Teenage Girl and Notes from a Spinning Planet series, she’s also the author of the women’s novels Finding Alice (in production now for a Lifetime-TV movie), Crystal Lies, On This Day, These Boots Weren’t Made for Walking, and A Mile in My Flip-Flops. A mother of two grown sons, Melody lives in central Oregon with her husband and chocolate lab retriever. She’s a full-time writer and an avid gardener, biker, skier, and hiker.
In Enduring Justice, Hanna Kessler’s childhood secret has remained buried for over two decades. But when the dark shadows of her past threaten to destroy those she loves, Hanna must face the summer that changed her life and the man who still haunts her thoughts.
Crimes Against Children FBI Agent, Michael Parker knows what it means to get knocked down. And when the system fails and a white supremacist is set free, Michael’s drive for retribution eclipses all else.
A racist’s well-planned assault forces Hanna and Michael to decide between executing vengeance and pursuing justice. When the attack turns personal, is healing still possible?
This thought-provoking novel deals with healing from sexual abuse, the balance of justice and mercy, and maintaining mixed-race friendships in the midst of racial tension. Readers who enjoy investigative thrillers by Dee Henderson, Colleen Coble, and Catherine Coulter, and who watch crime dramas like Law & Order: SVU, Criminal Minds, and Without a Trace will love this book—and the entire series.
Author Bio:
Amy Wallace is the author of Ransomed Dreams and Healing Promises, a homeschool mom, and self-confessed chocoholic. She is a graduate of the Gwinnett County Citizens Police Academy and a contributing author of several books including God Answers Moms’ Prayers and Chicken Soup for the Soul Healthy Living Series: Diabetes. She lives with her husband and three children in Georgia.
Kelly’s Reviews
“Mama’s Got a Fake I.D.
I picked up this book and thought it looked exciting. I thought it would be about how I can find my true identity. And in a way it was but it was also about being okay with not wanting to be ‘just a mom’. I am a mom who loves being just that, a mom. I truly enjoy being a mom. I love spending each and every day with my children. The book talked a lot about mothers who love being a mom as part of who they are. It almost made me feel guilty for liking being a mom. I know being a mom is not all that I am. I am so much more of a complex person, but I know that being a mom is what I am called to do and I love it. I think this book is tailored to moms who may be struggling with finding a balance between being a mom and everything else they do. It had great things to say and do to help all moms discover who they are in Christ.
“Dear Mom”
This was a good book. I did not get all of it read, but from what I was able to finish I would recommend it to moms that have teenage or soon to be teenage daughters. It will give you great insight into ways to talk with your daughter. It shows ways to open the lines of communication and how to be there for your daughter without making her resent you.
Enduring Justice
I had all these books to read about being a mother and to be honest, I’ve spent the past few couple of weeks being just that. What I’m basically saying is that I didn’t have time to read this book. Looks really good and I plan on reading it in the near future.
You can find the books on the Random House website at the following links.
Mama’s Got a Fake I.D.
Dear Mom
Enduring Justice
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Fought For This
I really fought for this weight loss. Dumb to say, but psychologically it was extremely difficult. I just want to eat something that was different and tasted good. I did my best and thankfully was able to get some weight loss. I am currently at 213.8 pounds. That is a loss of 2.2 pounds from last week. It’s also my new low.
Next week I’m taking a trip for my church and will be eating out multiple times. I’m going to try to get into the workout room at my hotel and be cautious on my food intake, but I’m still not looking forward to next Friday’s weigh day.
Next week I’m taking a trip for my church and will be eating out multiple times. I’m going to try to get into the workout room at my hotel and be cautious on my food intake, but I’m still not looking forward to next Friday’s weigh day.
May 4, 2009
Read a Book
I write this blog because I enjoy doing it. However, I never want it to control me. So, instead of spending time tonight thinking of and then writing a post, I’m going to write these few words and then read a little bit of a book before going to bed. Good night.
May 1, 2009
Frustration
The graphic screams my frustration. Up 2 pounds to 216. I can’t seem to break this barrier. Not saying I did a great job all week but overall I did pretty well. I need to sit down and really reevaluate what I’m doing.
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April 30, 2009
Book Review - A Flickering Light & Aurora
This week’s books are reviewed by wife Kelly.
Publisher’s Description for “A Flickering Light”
Returning to her Midwest roots, award-winning author Jane Kirkpatrick draws a page from her grandmother’s photo album to capture the interplay between shadow and light, temptation and faith that marks a woman’s pursuit of her dreams.
She took exquisite photographs,
but her heart was the true image exposed.
Fifteen-year-old Jessie Ann Gaebele loves nothing more than capturing a gorgeous Minnesota landscape when the sunlight casts its most mesmerizing shadows. So when F.J. Bauer hires her in 1907 to assist in his studio and darkroom, her dreams for a career in photography appear to find root in reality.
With the infamous hazards of the explosive powder used for lighting and the toxic darkroom chemicals, photography is considered a man’s profession. Yet Jessie shows remarkable talent in both the artistry and business of running a studio. She proves less skillful, however, at managing her growing attraction to the very married Mr. Bauer.
This luminous coming-of-age tale deftly exposes the intricate shadows that play across every dream worth pursuing—and the irresistible light that beckons the dreamer on.
Publisher’s Description for “Aurora”
Wrap yourself in a fantastic journey, a remarkable commitment, and a spare and splendid story. Master storyteller Jane Kirkpatrick extols the beautiful treasures, unknown to a wider public, rediscovered in the Old Aurora Colony of Oregon’s lush Willamette Valley. The people and legacy of Aurora, a utopian community founded in the mid-1800s, will stir your imagination, hopes, and dreams; and remind you that every life matters—that our lives are the stories other people read first.
~Featuring~
Unique and treasured quilt pattern variations
More than 100 photographs, many never-before published, from 1850 to today
Cherished stories from Aurora descendants
Rich images of fine crafts from the Aurora Colony and private collections
An introduction by renowned American artist John Houser
Aurora is about the difference every ordinary life can make—and a beautiful celebration of a time and place in which people expressed their most cherished beliefs through the work of their imagination and hands.
Author Bio
Jane Kirkpatrick is a best-selling, award-winning author whose previous historical novels include All Together in One Place and Christy Award finalist A Tendering in the Storm. An international keynote speaker, she has earned regional and national recognition for her stories based on the lives of actual people, including the prestigious Wrangler Award from the Western Heritage Hall of Fame. Jane is a Wisconsin native who since 1974 has lived in Eastern Oregon, where she and her husband, Jerry, ranch 160 rugged acres.
Kelly’s Reviews
A Flickering Light:
I really enjoyed this story. It was fun to read and the real photographs used to help tell the story are fascinating. The author does a great job drawing you into the story using both personal narrative and third person narrative. This allows to really get inside the main character’s head and know her thoughts and feelings better. I did not want to put it down. It turned out differently then I expected and was still very enjoyable. I am looking forward to the next book based on early female photographers.
Aurora:
I did not get a chance to read all of it yet, but have enjoyed what I have read so far. This book was full of wonderful pictures. I really liked looking through each page at the pictures of beautiful quilts and other amazing things from the past.
You can find out more about “A Flickering Light” and “Aurora” at Random House.
Publisher’s Description for “A Flickering Light”
Returning to her Midwest roots, award-winning author Jane Kirkpatrick draws a page from her grandmother’s photo album to capture the interplay between shadow and light, temptation and faith that marks a woman’s pursuit of her dreams.
She took exquisite photographs,
but her heart was the true image exposed.
Fifteen-year-old Jessie Ann Gaebele loves nothing more than capturing a gorgeous Minnesota landscape when the sunlight casts its most mesmerizing shadows. So when F.J. Bauer hires her in 1907 to assist in his studio and darkroom, her dreams for a career in photography appear to find root in reality.
With the infamous hazards of the explosive powder used for lighting and the toxic darkroom chemicals, photography is considered a man’s profession. Yet Jessie shows remarkable talent in both the artistry and business of running a studio. She proves less skillful, however, at managing her growing attraction to the very married Mr. Bauer.
This luminous coming-of-age tale deftly exposes the intricate shadows that play across every dream worth pursuing—and the irresistible light that beckons the dreamer on.
Publisher’s Description for “Aurora”
Wrap yourself in a fantastic journey, a remarkable commitment, and a spare and splendid story. Master storyteller Jane Kirkpatrick extols the beautiful treasures, unknown to a wider public, rediscovered in the Old Aurora Colony of Oregon’s lush Willamette Valley. The people and legacy of Aurora, a utopian community founded in the mid-1800s, will stir your imagination, hopes, and dreams; and remind you that every life matters—that our lives are the stories other people read first.
~Featuring~
Unique and treasured quilt pattern variations
More than 100 photographs, many never-before published, from 1850 to today
Cherished stories from Aurora descendants
Rich images of fine crafts from the Aurora Colony and private collections
An introduction by renowned American artist John Houser
Aurora is about the difference every ordinary life can make—and a beautiful celebration of a time and place in which people expressed their most cherished beliefs through the work of their imagination and hands.
Author Bio
Jane Kirkpatrick is a best-selling, award-winning author whose previous historical novels include All Together in One Place and Christy Award finalist A Tendering in the Storm. An international keynote speaker, she has earned regional and national recognition for her stories based on the lives of actual people, including the prestigious Wrangler Award from the Western Heritage Hall of Fame. Jane is a Wisconsin native who since 1974 has lived in Eastern Oregon, where she and her husband, Jerry, ranch 160 rugged acres.
Kelly’s Reviews
A Flickering Light:
I really enjoyed this story. It was fun to read and the real photographs used to help tell the story are fascinating. The author does a great job drawing you into the story using both personal narrative and third person narrative. This allows to really get inside the main character’s head and know her thoughts and feelings better. I did not want to put it down. It turned out differently then I expected and was still very enjoyable. I am looking forward to the next book based on early female photographers.
Aurora:
I did not get a chance to read all of it yet, but have enjoyed what I have read so far. This book was full of wonderful pictures. I really liked looking through each page at the pictures of beautiful quilts and other amazing things from the past.
You can find out more about “A Flickering Light” and “Aurora” at Random House.
April 28, 2009
The Monkey Trap
Tonight I am finishing up my three part “How to Lose Your Faith” series. I’m dealing with the monkey trap, or perhaps better understood as hanging onto the world when all it means is death. I’m starting with the classic story (or legend) that you can trap a monkey by placing an object that it desires in a jar with an opening only big enough for its hand to slide in. Once the monkey grasps the object, it can’t fit its fist back out the jar’s opening. I’ve searched and it doesn’t appear to be a true story which I will make clear tonight, but it really does illustrate the way people view this world. They talk about wanting heaven, but they’re holding so tight to their possessions and relationships that when Christ does return they’ll be left behind.
I have a mental picture of a person holding onto the ground with Christ pulling their feet in mid air trying to get them to let go. Won’t happen that way, but this is the picture I have of people that loudly say they love Christ but really love their things instead. You can hold onto one thing in this life and what you hold onto will determine your future. We must hold onto Christ. He is the only way to the Father.
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I have a mental picture of a person holding onto the ground with Christ pulling their feet in mid air trying to get them to let go. Won’t happen that way, but this is the picture I have of people that loudly say they love Christ but really love their things instead. You can hold onto one thing in this life and what you hold onto will determine your future. We must hold onto Christ. He is the only way to the Father.
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April 27, 2009
Software Review - EasyCrop
I am a software junkie. I love testing and trying out new software. Yet, I find myself regularly falling back on certain applications that do one thing and do it well. Thanks to Tim Verpoorten for that phrase. EasyCrop is an application whose main purpose is to crop and resize a photo. I just realized today that an update that was released a while ago added the ability to perform screen captures too. The main functionality though still revolves around the cropping.
The process is simple. Drag a photo onto the left panel. Choose a predetermined crop size or just use free cropping. Once you have selected your crop, the right panel show you what your crop looks like. The program allows you to view it fit to the window or its actual size. I prefer actual size because it allows me to see at a glance how big the photo actually is. With a simple slider, I can then begin resizing the photo to a smaller size. This is great for adding an image to a webpage. Instead of uploading a large image, I can upload a small image that loads much faster. Then, when you have the crop and size where you want them, you just drag the image in the right panel to where you want it. You don’t have to save it somewhere and then come back to it in another program. I drag images from Easy Crop straight to my blog editor. Quick, easy, done.
The image below is what the program looks like. I used EasyCrop to resize the picture of EasyCrop. There’s a paradox in there somewhere but that’s for another day. I have some pretty powerful image editors that can handle cropping, but nothing works as quite as simple as this little piece of software. If you’re on a mac, you can check it out at www.yellowmug.com.
The process is simple. Drag a photo onto the left panel. Choose a predetermined crop size or just use free cropping. Once you have selected your crop, the right panel show you what your crop looks like. The program allows you to view it fit to the window or its actual size. I prefer actual size because it allows me to see at a glance how big the photo actually is. With a simple slider, I can then begin resizing the photo to a smaller size. This is great for adding an image to a webpage. Instead of uploading a large image, I can upload a small image that loads much faster. Then, when you have the crop and size where you want them, you just drag the image in the right panel to where you want it. You don’t have to save it somewhere and then come back to it in another program. I drag images from Easy Crop straight to my blog editor. Quick, easy, done.
The image below is what the program looks like. I used EasyCrop to resize the picture of EasyCrop. There’s a paradox in there somewhere but that’s for another day. I have some pretty powerful image editors that can handle cropping, but nothing works as quite as simple as this little piece of software. If you’re on a mac, you can check it out at www.yellowmug.com.
February 20, 2009
When Success Disappoints
I’m writing this Friday health update and to be honest, I’m a little depressed in writing it. As the graphic shows, I lost one pound. That’s success I know, but it’s a lot less than I wanted. I know the factors that played into it only being one pound.
1. We had a Valentine dinner at church. I worked it, but I also ate it.
2. Valentine’s Day itself was calorically bad.
3. The leftovers from Valentine’s Day were also calorically bad.
I have been overweight a long time, but last week I dropped four pounds. I’ve read enough to know that four pounds is an amazing amount to lose in one week, especially since I haven’t really started exercising yet (it’s beginning soon). Yet, I’m human and had mentally psyched myself up with thoughts of dropping below 220 in two weeks. Unrealistic I know, but that’s what I was thinking.
Another one of the struggles is summed up in two words, Auntie Anne’s. As yesterday’s post so eloquently states, I had to find a new pair of running shoes. The heel is falling off the pair I’m wearing now. Added craziness, I’m still wearing the old ones until the mud and melting snow dries up so I don’t get the new ones covered in mud. As I searched for a pair, I found myself at the mall still trying to find a basic shoe at a good price. The journey led me past Auntie Anne’s pretzels. I am a bread and pretzel lover and nothing screams to me like a hot pretzel dripping with melted butter. I whipped out my phone and checked online for calorie information. One pretzel was 370 calories. You could drop some calories by omitting the butter but that defeats the purpose of the pretzel. It was a battle supreme as I debated whether or not to get one. The fact is that I had enough calories in my budget to eat one. Yet, I didn’t get one. I don’t know what depressed me more, the fact that I’m overweight and I have to count calories or that I had enough calories left to get one but I didn’t.
On the exercise note, we just got Wii Fit and the balance board. Google Wii Fit if you have no clue what I’m talking about. Around here it’s been impossible to find. We’ve called Best Buy several times on Sunday afternoons after seeing their advertisement in the paper only to have the person on the phone basically laugh at us. Every time they were sold out within moments of the store opening. Even online it’s been difficult. The only places I could find them were selling them for over forty dollars more than the retail price. Sorry, I can wait. Anyway, Wednesday morning I got an email from Amazon.com stating that they had received a shipment of Wii game systems. I figured there was a good chance that they might have gotten the Wii Fit in stock too. I was right. I ordered and chose free shipping which means it was going to be a week or so until we got it. It came last night. Major shout out for Amazon and UPS for having it get to us in one day. Played with it last night. It can’t replace a gym, but it was fun and got me moving. It’s a good start.
Well, that’s enough for now. I try to limit myself to writing about my health and weight to once a week since this isn’t a diet blog. Yet, it is part of my journey.
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1. We had a Valentine dinner at church. I worked it, but I also ate it.
2. Valentine’s Day itself was calorically bad.
3. The leftovers from Valentine’s Day were also calorically bad.
I have been overweight a long time, but last week I dropped four pounds. I’ve read enough to know that four pounds is an amazing amount to lose in one week, especially since I haven’t really started exercising yet (it’s beginning soon). Yet, I’m human and had mentally psyched myself up with thoughts of dropping below 220 in two weeks. Unrealistic I know, but that’s what I was thinking.
Another one of the struggles is summed up in two words, Auntie Anne’s. As yesterday’s post so eloquently states, I had to find a new pair of running shoes. The heel is falling off the pair I’m wearing now. Added craziness, I’m still wearing the old ones until the mud and melting snow dries up so I don’t get the new ones covered in mud. As I searched for a pair, I found myself at the mall still trying to find a basic shoe at a good price. The journey led me past Auntie Anne’s pretzels. I am a bread and pretzel lover and nothing screams to me like a hot pretzel dripping with melted butter. I whipped out my phone and checked online for calorie information. One pretzel was 370 calories. You could drop some calories by omitting the butter but that defeats the purpose of the pretzel. It was a battle supreme as I debated whether or not to get one. The fact is that I had enough calories in my budget to eat one. Yet, I didn’t get one. I don’t know what depressed me more, the fact that I’m overweight and I have to count calories or that I had enough calories left to get one but I didn’t.
On the exercise note, we just got Wii Fit and the balance board. Google Wii Fit if you have no clue what I’m talking about. Around here it’s been impossible to find. We’ve called Best Buy several times on Sunday afternoons after seeing their advertisement in the paper only to have the person on the phone basically laugh at us. Every time they were sold out within moments of the store opening. Even online it’s been difficult. The only places I could find them were selling them for over forty dollars more than the retail price. Sorry, I can wait. Anyway, Wednesday morning I got an email from Amazon.com stating that they had received a shipment of Wii game systems. I figured there was a good chance that they might have gotten the Wii Fit in stock too. I was right. I ordered and chose free shipping which means it was going to be a week or so until we got it. It came last night. Major shout out for Amazon and UPS for having it get to us in one day. Played with it last night. It can’t replace a gym, but it was fun and got me moving. It’s a good start.
Well, that’s enough for now. I try to limit myself to writing about my health and weight to once a week since this isn’t a diet blog. Yet, it is part of my journey.
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February 19, 2009
Life Update
Major life update today. I bought a new pair of shoes. Yeah, that’s the excitement of my week.
February 14, 2009
Book Review - For Couples Only
“For Couple’s Only” is a box set containing “For Women Only” and “For Men Only.” Both books are based on research studies that were conducted on how men and woman think and feel. Don’t think that the books are just dull statistical numbers though. They are an insightful look at how the opposite sex views things and how we can better relate to each other. As always, I’ll post the publishers description and authors’ bios and then weigh in with my thoughts.
Description:
Since their debut, these revolutionary guides have sold well over a million copies, been translated into fifteen languages, and sparked much fascinating water-cooler conversation around the country. Now together in the For Couples Only boxed set, these books provide the perfect resource to help you understand what you never knew about the woman or man in your life.
Each volume is based on input from more than a thousand members of the opposite sex—including an unprecedented nationwide survey and hundreds of personal interviews. This innovative approach yields candid and surprising answers about everything you don’t “get” about your significant other—even what that person deeply wishes you knew. It also produces simple but groundbreaking awareness of how you can best love and support the one who is most important to you. [Part of me wanted to make this paragraph past tense—yielded and produced—because of the first paragraph, but that took away some of the immediacy of what the books offer. I’ll leave that up to you.]
So whether you are newly dating or have been married fifty years, get ready to know each other in a whole new way. The adventure is just beginning!
Author Bio:
Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn hold graduate degrees from Harvard University and are popular national speakers, authors, and entrepreneurs. They are also active church members and the parents of two young children, and they enjoy every minute of living life at warp speed.
My Thoughts on “For Men Only”
Being the week it was, I only was able to make it part way through “For Men Only.” My wife was able to finish “For Woman Only.” From what I read, the topics twere right on with things I know about my wife. It was a good reminder to keep doing some of things I’ve been doing and more importantly, gave me reasons why I need to do those things. I think that is the key aspect, learning the why. I’ve got a lot more to read through but so far the book is a good read.
Kelly’s Thoughts on “For Women Only”
I really enjoyed reading For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. I like to think that I know my husband pretty well and that we have a good marriage. I know that there is always room for improvement and I can honestly say I learned a few things from reading this book. It does a good job of digging into the inner lives of men and helping women understand how they are wired. It doesn’t just gloss over the topics it discusses them in depth and Feldhahn uses great illustrations and comparisons that really help women understand how men think and feel. In my reading I can say that I had several lightbulb moments where something seemed to click on in my mind of how being a man is for my husband. I would strongly recommend this book to all women. It will give you great insight into the man you love.
Buy the set at Amazon.
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Description:
Since their debut, these revolutionary guides have sold well over a million copies, been translated into fifteen languages, and sparked much fascinating water-cooler conversation around the country. Now together in the For Couples Only boxed set, these books provide the perfect resource to help you understand what you never knew about the woman or man in your life.
Each volume is based on input from more than a thousand members of the opposite sex—including an unprecedented nationwide survey and hundreds of personal interviews. This innovative approach yields candid and surprising answers about everything you don’t “get” about your significant other—even what that person deeply wishes you knew. It also produces simple but groundbreaking awareness of how you can best love and support the one who is most important to you. [Part of me wanted to make this paragraph past tense—yielded and produced—because of the first paragraph, but that took away some of the immediacy of what the books offer. I’ll leave that up to you.]
So whether you are newly dating or have been married fifty years, get ready to know each other in a whole new way. The adventure is just beginning!
Author Bio:
Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn hold graduate degrees from Harvard University and are popular national speakers, authors, and entrepreneurs. They are also active church members and the parents of two young children, and they enjoy every minute of living life at warp speed.
My Thoughts on “For Men Only”
Being the week it was, I only was able to make it part way through “For Men Only.” My wife was able to finish “For Woman Only.” From what I read, the topics twere right on with things I know about my wife. It was a good reminder to keep doing some of things I’ve been doing and more importantly, gave me reasons why I need to do those things. I think that is the key aspect, learning the why. I’ve got a lot more to read through but so far the book is a good read.
Kelly’s Thoughts on “For Women Only”
I really enjoyed reading For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. I like to think that I know my husband pretty well and that we have a good marriage. I know that there is always room for improvement and I can honestly say I learned a few things from reading this book. It does a good job of digging into the inner lives of men and helping women understand how they are wired. It doesn’t just gloss over the topics it discusses them in depth and Feldhahn uses great illustrations and comparisons that really help women understand how men think and feel. In my reading I can say that I had several lightbulb moments where something seemed to click on in my mind of how being a man is for my husband. I would strongly recommend this book to all women. It will give you great insight into the man you love.
Buy the set at Amazon.
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February 13, 2009
Goodbye 230
Just a quick entry on my weight progress. Today’s weight is 227.4. That’s over 4 pounds of loss this week. Can’t even describe how good it feels to blow goal number one away. Even better, my low last summer was 228, but that came after a week of fighting the flu. I’m below that without the aid of sickness. I haven’t consistently weighed in the 220’s since college.
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February 12, 2009
Book Review - The Love As A Way Of Life Devotional
This is one of the books that I didn’t get a chance to read. Being a devotional, it’s always more enjoyable to read it on a daily basis over a course of time anyway. The book that the devotional is based was written by Gary Chapman. I have read his book “The Five Love Languages” in the past and really enjoyed it. So while haven’t read this book, I’ve appreciated the author’s other works. I’ll post the information below from the publisher.
Description:
In his book Love As a Way of Life, best-selling author Gary Chapman shows readers how to cultivate a new lifestyle built around the seven characteristics of authentic love. Now in a companion devotional, he provides ninety inspirational readings to help Christians consistently live out the characteristics of love in every relationship.
Each devotional entry showcases biblical truths that guide a life of love, offering fresh insight and practical guidance in how to make love a lasting habit. Over the course of three months, readers will learn to follow God’s lead as they practice the characteristics of a loving person: kindness, patience, forgiveness, courtesy, humility, generosity, and honesty.
The Love As a Way of Life Devotional makes an ideal gift for the holidays or for any special occasion. Couples, parents, new graduates, and anyone celebrating a milestone in life will welcome this inspiring daily guide to richer, more satisfying relationships.
Author Bio:
Dr. Gary Chapman is the author of twenty-six books, including the New York Times bestseller The Five Love Languages, with more than 4 million copies in print. His daily radio program, A Love Language Minute, is broadcast on more than 100 stations nationwide. Dr. Chapman, a graduate of Moody Bible Institute, Wheaton College, Wake-Forest University, and Southwestern Seminary, serves on a church staff in North Carolina.
Pick up a copy at Amazon.
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Description:
In his book Love As a Way of Life, best-selling author Gary Chapman shows readers how to cultivate a new lifestyle built around the seven characteristics of authentic love. Now in a companion devotional, he provides ninety inspirational readings to help Christians consistently live out the characteristics of love in every relationship.
Each devotional entry showcases biblical truths that guide a life of love, offering fresh insight and practical guidance in how to make love a lasting habit. Over the course of three months, readers will learn to follow God’s lead as they practice the characteristics of a loving person: kindness, patience, forgiveness, courtesy, humility, generosity, and honesty.
The Love As a Way of Life Devotional makes an ideal gift for the holidays or for any special occasion. Couples, parents, new graduates, and anyone celebrating a milestone in life will welcome this inspiring daily guide to richer, more satisfying relationships.
Author Bio:
Dr. Gary Chapman is the author of twenty-six books, including the New York Times bestseller The Five Love Languages, with more than 4 million copies in print. His daily radio program, A Love Language Minute, is broadcast on more than 100 stations nationwide. Dr. Chapman, a graduate of Moody Bible Institute, Wheaton College, Wake-Forest University, and Southwestern Seminary, serves on a church staff in North Carolina.
Pick up a copy at Amazon.
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A Note About My Reviews
I made it clear in a previous post on my blog that I was accepted along with many other bloggers to review books provided by a publisher. The books are given to me free of charge as long as I read and review them. If I desire, I can also receive an extra copy to give away on the blog. However, if time prohibits reading the book, the company asks that I at least post the information about the book. I’ve been blessed by this arrangement as it has given me the opportunity to read newer books coming into the Christian market that normally I just don’t have the money to buy. Even better, I’ve been able to read books that I wouldn’t normally pick up at the bookstore. The book “I Do Again” that I reviewed last time is a prime example. A book about a divorce and remarriage wouldn’t be high on my to read list, but I was surprised to find it worth my time. It impacted me. I like it when something like that happens.
Why the disclosure? Let me explain. Heading into Valentine’s Day, the opportunity was for four books. By the time I got them, I had about a week and a half to cover them all. I got the one finished and reviewed, but a Valentine dinner at church I’ve been working on has kept me busier than I thought. Therefore, I’ll be posting the information about the devotional that was offered in my next post without a full review. The other two books are a set. My wife has read most of the one and will assist me by writing some thoughts on it. I’ve read a little of the second book and will include my first impressions in the same entry.
I just wanted to make it very clear the reasons behind why and how I do book reviews, and the reasons why there might occasionally be a book posted without a review.
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Why the disclosure? Let me explain. Heading into Valentine’s Day, the opportunity was for four books. By the time I got them, I had about a week and a half to cover them all. I got the one finished and reviewed, but a Valentine dinner at church I’ve been working on has kept me busier than I thought. Therefore, I’ll be posting the information about the devotional that was offered in my next post without a full review. The other two books are a set. My wife has read most of the one and will assist me by writing some thoughts on it. I’ve read a little of the second book and will include my first impressions in the same entry.
I just wanted to make it very clear the reasons behind why and how I do book reviews, and the reasons why there might occasionally be a book posted without a review.
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February 11, 2009
Book Review - I Do Again
This week I have the chance to review a few books dealing with relationships. Today I’m looking at “I Do Again” by Cheryl & Jeff Scruggs. As always, I’ll post the publisher’s description and the author bio before sharing my opinion.
Description:
With their professional success and adorable twin daughters, Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs looked like the perfect couple. But their polished facade concealed a widening chasm between two people unable to connect on an intimate, soul-deep level.
After years of frustration, Cheryl’s desire for emotional fulfillment led to an affair and, finally, divorce. Yet, incredibly, seven years later, Jeff and Cheryl once again stood at the altar, promising to “love, honor, and cherish” one another. A new and vibrant love had risen out of the ashes of this family’s pain.
I Do Again details the fascinating real-life story of a couple whose relationship seemed shattered beyond all hope until a spiritual awakening led them to reconsider their definitions of “happily ever after.” A riveting account of the power of prayer and redemption, this remarkable book offers renewed hope for even the most troubled marriages—and reveals why the rewards of restoration are well worth the wait.
Author Bio:
Cheryl and Jeff Scruggs are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries, and for the past several years they have shared their incredible story of a marriage restored with audiences across the nation. Jeff is an account manager with OshKosh B’Gosh, and Cheryl has served as director of the Frisco, Texas, office of the Center for Christian Counseling. They live in Dallas, Texas with their two college-age daughters.
My Thoughts
Just so it is clear up front, this book is not some dry marriage counseling textbook. It’s an autobiography of a couple that experienced the pain of divorce and then witnessed the power of God as He slowly brought them back together.
The authors make it clear from the beginning that they are not perfect people and that there are things that they did even while God was working in them that was not appropriate. Personally, it didn’t bother me. I saw it as a true picture of a relationship with God. Even as we draw close to Christ we blow it sometimes. Not always out of open rebellion, but often out of immaturity. God patiently keeps working to correct us. I give the Scruggs credit for being so open with their humanity and the way God never gave up on either of them.
With that said, I thought it was a great book. I enjoyed reading it and found myself rooting for the both of them to make it. In a world where marriages fall apart left and right as theirs did, I was cheering for their marriage to be restored. My wife will tell you it affected me because when I was finished I walked over to her and gave her a very long hug. She was enjoying the hug for a moment, then she started laughing and pushed me away. With a smile in her eyes she looked right at me and said, “You’ve been reading that marriage book again haven’t you?” She got me on that point, but I don’t mind if a book causes me to want to love my life in a better way.
Another point that the book stresses is that to be able to love another person fully, you must first be fully committed and in a loving relationship with Christ. Loving God with everything allows us to love others the way they need to be loved. This thought has been rolling around in my mind since I read it.
I’ll just close by saying the book is worth picking up and reading. It was worth my time and I think it would be a benefit to other couple’s.
You can pick up a copy at Amazon.
Description:
With their professional success and adorable twin daughters, Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs looked like the perfect couple. But their polished facade concealed a widening chasm between two people unable to connect on an intimate, soul-deep level.
After years of frustration, Cheryl’s desire for emotional fulfillment led to an affair and, finally, divorce. Yet, incredibly, seven years later, Jeff and Cheryl once again stood at the altar, promising to “love, honor, and cherish” one another. A new and vibrant love had risen out of the ashes of this family’s pain.
I Do Again details the fascinating real-life story of a couple whose relationship seemed shattered beyond all hope until a spiritual awakening led them to reconsider their definitions of “happily ever after.” A riveting account of the power of prayer and redemption, this remarkable book offers renewed hope for even the most troubled marriages—and reveals why the rewards of restoration are well worth the wait.
Author Bio:
Cheryl and Jeff Scruggs are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries, and for the past several years they have shared their incredible story of a marriage restored with audiences across the nation. Jeff is an account manager with OshKosh B’Gosh, and Cheryl has served as director of the Frisco, Texas, office of the Center for Christian Counseling. They live in Dallas, Texas with their two college-age daughters.
My Thoughts
Just so it is clear up front, this book is not some dry marriage counseling textbook. It’s an autobiography of a couple that experienced the pain of divorce and then witnessed the power of God as He slowly brought them back together.
The authors make it clear from the beginning that they are not perfect people and that there are things that they did even while God was working in them that was not appropriate. Personally, it didn’t bother me. I saw it as a true picture of a relationship with God. Even as we draw close to Christ we blow it sometimes. Not always out of open rebellion, but often out of immaturity. God patiently keeps working to correct us. I give the Scruggs credit for being so open with their humanity and the way God never gave up on either of them.
With that said, I thought it was a great book. I enjoyed reading it and found myself rooting for the both of them to make it. In a world where marriages fall apart left and right as theirs did, I was cheering for their marriage to be restored. My wife will tell you it affected me because when I was finished I walked over to her and gave her a very long hug. She was enjoying the hug for a moment, then she started laughing and pushed me away. With a smile in her eyes she looked right at me and said, “You’ve been reading that marriage book again haven’t you?” She got me on that point, but I don’t mind if a book causes me to want to love my life in a better way.
Another point that the book stresses is that to be able to love another person fully, you must first be fully committed and in a loving relationship with Christ. Loving God with everything allows us to love others the way they need to be loved. This thought has been rolling around in my mind since I read it.
I’ll just close by saying the book is worth picking up and reading. It was worth my time and I think it would be a benefit to other couple’s.
You can pick up a copy at Amazon.
February 10, 2009
Our Connection to Creation
Today is an amazing day and I can literally feel a change in my emotions. Just over one week ago we were still digging out after the worst snowstorm of the season. Today, the windows of my house are all open and the fresh air smells amazing. I don’t even know how to describe the scent of fresh air. Does it even have a scent? All I know is that a little change in the weather can do incredible things in us.
We are connected to God’s creation in ways that we don’t understand. I see this exemplified even in the tiny fact that a lot of the vitamin D our bodies need comes from the sun. We were designed by God to synthesize vitamin D when our skin is exposed the ultraviolet rays from the sun. While we now understand this one, I think there are millions of more ways that we are connected to creation without even knowing it.
Sin has done so much to mar what God intended. We can hardly even fathom the simple thought of lions and lambs frolicking and playing together. We can barely comprehend total and lasting peace. Yet, it was the original design of creation. This world is cursed because of sin, but it stirs up something in my soul to think that God is working to bring everything back to what it created to be.
We are connected to God’s creation in ways that we don’t understand. I see this exemplified even in the tiny fact that a lot of the vitamin D our bodies need comes from the sun. We were designed by God to synthesize vitamin D when our skin is exposed the ultraviolet rays from the sun. While we now understand this one, I think there are millions of more ways that we are connected to creation without even knowing it.
Sin has done so much to mar what God intended. We can hardly even fathom the simple thought of lions and lambs frolicking and playing together. We can barely comprehend total and lasting peace. Yet, it was the original design of creation. This world is cursed because of sin, but it stirs up something in my soul to think that God is working to bring everything back to what it created to be.
February 6, 2009
The Weight of Pride
It’s been a long time, but I was posting my progress on my “healthy eating lifestyle” on this blog as a way of being accountable. Health is part of the journey we are on. Anyway, I stopped posting for a simple reason. I stopped working on it and started gaining. Since the beginning of this year I have been working on it better than I ever have before. We have a nice two week menu rhythm going on now with some flexibility to change it up when our tastes need it. I am currently at 231.6 pounds.
Right before I started again I weighed and was back up to 249. That was my motivation. Looking back through my blog, I saw that I had actually reached 230 last September. I know for a fact that I hit 228 last summer, but that was after a week of fighting the flu and barely eating. So, I’m happy where I’m at and I’m hoping that by next week I’ll drop into the 220’s. That 230 mark is one of my first goals. Dropping under 220 is goal number 2. That’s what I weighed in college. After that, the next goal is that magic 200 mark.
Right before I started again I weighed and was back up to 249. That was my motivation. Looking back through my blog, I saw that I had actually reached 230 last September. I know for a fact that I hit 228 last summer, but that was after a week of fighting the flu and barely eating. So, I’m happy where I’m at and I’m hoping that by next week I’ll drop into the 220’s. That 230 mark is one of my first goals. Dropping under 220 is goal number 2. That’s what I weighed in college. After that, the next goal is that magic 200 mark.
January 21, 2009
Goodbye Friend
I think the hardest thing in being a follower of Christ is watching people you care about and love begin to turn away from the Lord. To watch that fire begin to burn down. To watch good decisions be replaced with poor choices. As a youth minister, I feel pain as I run the list of students I’ve ministered to over in my head. Ones that I tried my best to show the love of Christ to but then watched them reject it. Students that came for a time, accepted Christ, and then disappeared never to be seen again. Even with students that I have now, I wonder deep inside if they are really trusting in Jesus for everything, or is he simply a part of the cultural heritage.
I think it hurts so much because I really do believe in heaven and hell. Last night at youth service I mentioned how the Lord will “wipe every tear from their eyes” (Revelation 21:4). Often we hear that there will be no tears in heaven, yet for at least a time there will be tears before they are forever wiped away. I have a feeling that a lot of the tears will be shed for those that we loved that chose not to make it; those that chose to walk away. To be in such a perfect place and to have the realization of what many people we cared about are experiencing. Heaven would be eternal weeping if Christ didn’t step and wipe the tears away.
Where does that leave us now? For me, I’ll keep loving and ministering through the good and the bad. Hopefully, some that I minister to will really grab hold of Christ and not let go. For others that I’ve ministered to down through the years, I have to trust that I’ve planted spiritual seeds that I hope will bear fruit later. And sadly, I have to realize that some will choose to live out Christ’s words in Matthew 7:13-14.
“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”
I think it hurts so much because I really do believe in heaven and hell. Last night at youth service I mentioned how the Lord will “wipe every tear from their eyes” (Revelation 21:4). Often we hear that there will be no tears in heaven, yet for at least a time there will be tears before they are forever wiped away. I have a feeling that a lot of the tears will be shed for those that we loved that chose not to make it; those that chose to walk away. To be in such a perfect place and to have the realization of what many people we cared about are experiencing. Heaven would be eternal weeping if Christ didn’t step and wipe the tears away.
Where does that leave us now? For me, I’ll keep loving and ministering through the good and the bad. Hopefully, some that I minister to will really grab hold of Christ and not let go. For others that I’ve ministered to down through the years, I have to trust that I’ve planted spiritual seeds that I hope will bear fruit later. And sadly, I have to realize that some will choose to live out Christ’s words in Matthew 7:13-14.
“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”
January 20, 2009
In The Bubble
Read the book “Not The Religious Type” by Dave Schmelzer recently. Had some really good thoughts that really sparked my mind. I like a book that does that. Most of my thoughts have been revolving around the way we view Christianity. Is it a bubble or a journey. It really seems that many people view it as a bubble. Once you accept Christ you are in that bubble. As long as you stay in the bubble you are good. The problem that I see is that the bubble ends up being the destination. Instead of pursuing a deeper relationship with Christ, we find ourselves satisfied that we are in the bubble. As I look at people I’ve seen accept Christ and then drift away, I wonder if this was the case. Accepting Christ was the end of the road instead of being what it really is, the start of a relationship with the living Lord. The start of an incredible adventure. More later.
January 19, 2009
It's Going to Happen
The weather forecast for tomorrow is looking promising. It looks like we might have youth again. Just for the record, the last time we had an actual youth service was December 9, 2008.
January 15, 2009
iPhoto '09
I use iPhoto on my Mac to manage all my photos. With family, church, and especially youth, the number of photos I have is constantly climbing. Having the ability to sort, tag, and lightly edit has been great. The new features in iPhoto ’09 are making it better. I still think there should be an upgrade price, but I’ll be forking over the money anyway.
The main feature that has me waiting is face recognition. Currently, I go through all my photos that I take and tag the name of each person in the photo. It’s time consuming, but worth it when I need a shot of a certain person. With face recognition, the software isolates the faces in each photo. Once this is done, you tag one of those areas with a name. Then, it searches all the photos to find that person and automatically tags their name. That alone is worth the price of admission to me.
I know other apps out there can do this and I’m hoping Apple’s implementation of it works extremely well. I guess we’ll see in about a month when it actually hits the market.
The main feature that has me waiting is face recognition. Currently, I go through all my photos that I take and tag the name of each person in the photo. It’s time consuming, but worth it when I need a shot of a certain person. With face recognition, the software isolates the faces in each photo. Once this is done, you tag one of those areas with a name. Then, it searches all the photos to find that person and automatically tags their name. That alone is worth the price of admission to me.
I know other apps out there can do this and I’m hoping Apple’s implementation of it works extremely well. I guess we’ll see in about a month when it actually hits the market.
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